Happy LGBT Pride Month to all LGBTs! Sad that this was posted tho on the end of June
Let's not forget Ireland's approval on Gay Marriage. I think they really influenced other countries to take a step forward too which I hope leads to domino effect in the future especially that it's US, your country and the one of the most influential nation in the world, who took this step.
I know I argued before that religion has not much effect on the anti-LGBT thingy. I still stand to this but I'm somewhat gonna change to "Not all religion or religious people goes for anti-LGBT". There are lots proofs out there that religions has a big effect on anti-LGBT movement so my argument before was complete BS but still calling all religious people Anti-Gay is just complete stereotyping.
Anyways, There are religions out there that are tolerant of LGBTs or neutral to LGBTs or frowns upon but not violent against them. Also, I hate how media always uses the word "Religious people" instead of being specific of what religion those people are adhering to. This really causes alot of misunderstanding and confusion that all religions and denominations have the same mindset. Not all, duh.
Haha, it doesn't matter really that you skipped some part. I wrote a very long post which is really hard to reply on so yeah :3
The sexual thingy over emotional thingy, probably gotta do with their sexual drive and on what environment they were raised. I mean a person might have parents/relatives/peers that values sexual stuffs over emotional stuff which influenced him/her or the person might just have a very high sexual drive.
Never thought you would reply on the relationship thingy coz that was way off topic Anyways, haha, yeah true. I hate how some people shove their opinions on other especially on things like this. They're like being really subjective on things and think that the things that they do to make themselves happy would also make other people happy if they do the same thing which is just complete moronic. Everyone has their own personal preference on things and we should respect that. Plus, gah... those people who share their bedroom stories and how much they had. Just disgusting. :V
Well, some complain becoz they really feel used. Trust me, I'm a guy and I have guy friends who just want the thing from some girl especially those who they describe as "sluts". They pursue a relationship with them and then after they get it, they run away and never to be seen again. This kind of thing is the one I'm talking about not those relationships that have sexual intimacy in it coz, as you said before, there are couples who believe that sexual stuffs are one of the ways to express "love" with each other and I'm totally A-OK with that. And yeah, it's not fair to blame or call someone stupid for giving in to this kind of requests but it's not good either to completely deflect the blame. In seriousness, the offender and the offended have the fair share of blame; the former for being a shallow person and the latter being an easy prey and not being responsible enough.
Anyways, about the communication problem and on a partner that totally disrespects your boundary, the thing is that it doesn't show up early in a relationship especially if you're in a relationship with someone you just met some week or month ago on a dating scene or it's someone you do not know fully. Of course, they would show their best side first but after awhile you'll know their true intent. And this is where problem arises, you're already head over heels with the person before you realize their abusive tendencies, like for example, your partner will give you silent treatment if you do not give in to his/her sexual wants. And of course, a person that is completely in love with that kind of person would think irrationally. They would give in to the request just to stay in relationship even though they know that it's gonna be a repetitive cycle. And this is why I'm really against random dating/speed dating or what ever dating that doesn't require that much time investment in knowing the person first. I prefer building friendship and trust and knowing the person first before dating them over dating the person and knowing them afterwards. In this way, there's not much emotional investment in it and It's easier to cut off ties or stay as friends if I really really see the person in a bad limelight or it's not the person I want to be with. Just sharing my opinion.
Yup, I also really hate how having sex is like an achievement nowadays.
And yeah, we don't want to slut shame anyone but anyways, about preserving the V-card thingy till marriage or abstinence, if you really think about it, it shows good quality in a person, if the person for example had many relationships before/a lengthy relationship but was able to preserve the thing, it shows great self control that they did not give in to any pressure or primal urges and patience for waiting that long. And that's a honorable thing. Plus, also, this kind of lifestyle completely prevents STDs. So yeah, people who have successfully practiced abstinence deserves a higher praise than those who aren't able to do so. That doesn't mean tho that we can resort to slut shaming on those who have lost their Vs early on and continues to pursue sexual relationships. It's just like the Fat and the healthy thingy, we shouldn't shame the fat people but we shouldn't just completely "welcome" them. Rather, we should explain and remind them that being fat is an unhealthy thing/lifestyle and not something to be proud of. (I'll probably get alot of hatred now But I'll stand with my moral code no matter what.)
I see. I see. That's something new learned today! Haha, the thing with guy-to-guy friendships is that if we ever do the same physical intimacy or other kinds of intimacy as the girl does with each other, people would think that it's homo already so we avoid getting to intimate with one another not becoz we're bunch of homophobes but rather we just want to send a message straight out that our gender is male. :3 Gah.. it's just something instilled to guys by the society. There's nothing much we can do.
Haha, you really know lots of terms bracketed under LGBT So I can identify myself as Alloromantic? Anyways, yeah, I've yet to meet someone who isn't caught up with dating/love thingies that much just like me. Btw, Aren't there gray romantics ? About the high standards thingy, that's very true!
That's another thing learned today :3 Yup, true, before I heard that asexuality exists I really just believe that I'm heterosexual. But of course, I start to question my own self since I'm not as much as interested with sexual things compared to other people out there. I'm 100x more interested in forming emotional and romantic bond, instead. Yeah, people can change their sexual orientation in a drop of a hat.
I really do hope that term asexuality gains more prominence in the future and will just be as well known as the gays and lesbians and more people will be able to identify themselves as asexuals . Yeah, true. I hope the same for those queer labels.
True. True. It's not just a little too much. It's way too much already. It already became a main part of the Western Culture or those countries adopting Western Culture. I'm totally fine with sexual themes being thrown in movies and the likes a few times but if it's way too much, it tends to get distracting, annoying and cheap way of getting people to watch it. Just like in GoT, for example, I never watched it becoz of so much nudity in it. Seriously, that thing can already be considered "pornography". I know the reason why lots of guys watch it is becoz of the nudity in it not really becoz of the story.