Detective Rohit 38 Report post Posted September 26, 2011 When you are low, listening to music is the best way! Try this song Crash and Burn- Savage Garden. Its a perfect,cute, melodic, sweet,lovely etc etc PLEASE TRY IT OUT Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
hopes 237 Report post Posted September 26, 2011 Are you sure? It has to be important if you're upset... Are you sure you don't want to share what's wrong? You don't have to, but it might make you feel better. <3 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
-The Rising Angel- 48 Report post Posted September 26, 2011 Are you sure? It has to be important if you're upset... Are you sure you don't want to share what's wrong? You don't have to, but it might make you feel better. <3 I had a crapy day...everything went wrong...I fought with my best friends...that's the summary... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Kim-Chan 41 Report post Posted September 26, 2011 I've been 'depressed' every now and then, but I always seem to end up shoving it aside and end up forgetting about why I'm sad. I only do that because I don't like feeling sad, but I guess that makes me a coward for not directly facing my fears.. *sigh* I get depressed for a lot of reasons.. I don't know who I really am, I act differently depending on who I'm with. I feel like I can't find who I actually am.. I get depressed when I'm compared to someone. I start to feel so down on myself, I start thinking that I'm not good enough. I know when my mom starts comparing me to other kids my age she doesn't try to mean harm. I know she doesn't want me to feel bad that I never work as hard. I know, but it still hurts. I realize I'm not the best person out there who works the hardest, but when it's said right to my face my heart just, shatters... I also can't stand the fact I barely get along with my parents. They think they know me so well, but that's not true.. I'm not as open to them, because they grew up differently and I don't think they'd understand, and me telling them my problems might stir up more trouble in my life. They don't like my way of doing things, they tell me to do everything first and relax later. Okay, I don't mind, but I believe it's my homework, my life, my friends, I might work differently from how they do but I always get the job done. I get them an A. I don't go out and do drugs. I live properly, but I don't match their expectations.. I do love my parents I do, they brought me into this world I KNOW. But I feel like we are never on the same page, after 4th grade I feel like I changed. which worries me because after 4th grade is when I got into anime. I thought I felt more alive at that time, my eyes opened up.. but it seems it wasn't so positive of an effect for my relation with my parents... I get depressed because, already I've had a lot of ups and downs in life. I've had so many people I care about have to leave me. Gone. No trace of where they are now, or their well being. I had a time in life where I was poor. Dirt poor, lived in a cruddy home and we were just really poor. But I liked that time in my life, it was a bliss. I had good friends, I was nice and sweet, I was on good terms with my parents, and I felt like everything I wanted was there. I didn't need a big house, I didn't need nice clothes, &I didn't need to be filthy stinkin' rich and famous to be happy. I was happy. But that shattered when I moved away. I got a better house, better stuff, but it seems my trust with people around me no longer existed. I got meaner, I had my guard up. I had a really hard time letting people in. I still do, sure I'm friendly with everyone, but I'm not CLOSE to anyone because I'm afraid to lose them.. I afraid they'll leave.. I don't want that feeling. And hopefully this is the last thing I think of.. I get depress when I can't do anything. I hate waiting &listening. I always admire those character that wait for someone for such a long time span. Why? Because I have a hard time achieving what they can do. To wait, to not be able to help, to be unaware of everything, to just ..wait. I hate the feeling of useless- ness. I don't like listening either, my friend tells me their problems and I can't do anything to help, I just listen. I feel so useless. My attempts of cheering up don't help either.. Moving on..ok this is for sure the last thing.. I get depressed when I can't fix my bad habits. I'm selfish. I admit that. I'm selfish. I want to be the one who thinks of others but I always end up thinking about only myself. I think of people who barely cling on to life, and I think about me, the person who doesn't like life. The pessimistic one. I have a roof over my head, food to eat, and a warm bed and I still complain. A kid in Africa barely has enough clothing to wear nonetheless enough food to eat. I keep underestimating my life. My parents grew up very poor in Vietnam. Worked hard everyday, and didn't have the money to even finish school properly. Then they went through war. Their parents died when they were teens. I complain about my life because I feel different. Misunderstood. Other people? They're strong, they walk on their two feet and don't complain. Complaining gets them no where. I know that. But I can't take action I have to whine. I have to let it out to soothe my emotions. I want to be strong. I want to see life for the good thing because everywhere I walk I can only see the flaws, the pain. I seek comfort, that person that will listen to me and let me pour my heart out.I want someone to talk to again, because my bestfriend who understood me, moved. She moved to the other side of the country do to family reason.. And you know, I think the reason I love anime/manga so much is because it's my escape. I can let go of this world and meet someone else. Someone brave. Someone kind. Someone strong. Someone I can look up to, someone that can guide me. Yeah.. So sorry about the ultra long and unorganized paragraphs. I just needed to let it out. And if anyone ever actually takes time to read that all, I salute you. Okay I feel a bit pained now, remembering the sad stuff, but I also feel better to let it out. This helped me a lot. I think I'll be posting here more often.. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
tengaku squared 291 Report post Posted September 26, 2011 ...Dang, Kim. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Kim-Chan 41 Report post Posted September 26, 2011 ...Dang, Kim. Ehehe.. It's just my complaining, not in a very good mood today .. I'm sure my life isn't as bad as I described it.. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
tengaku squared 291 Report post Posted September 26, 2011 Ehehe.. It's just my complaining, not in a very good mood today .. I'm sure my life isn't as bad as I described it.. No, it's just that long posts in general will freak me out. Chek's probably taken a few years off my life span. Skyechan as well. :V Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Kim-Chan 41 Report post Posted September 27, 2011 No, it's just that long posts in general will freak me out. Chek's probably taken a few years off my life span. Skyechan as well. :V I personally enjoy long post, effort is really put in and i really gets a point across better. . . But if it's not borken into small chunks I can't read it... X____X Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Detective Rohit 38 Report post Posted September 27, 2011 O my..... Take care Kim-chan. Dont worry, there will be ups in your life. We all have ups and downs in life, without those downs, life is just meaningless. Well i think you know that already... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
tengaku squared 291 Report post Posted September 27, 2011 It's the downs in life that make us appreciate the few ups in our life. It's liking taking a breath after holding it for God knows how long. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Detective Rohit 38 Report post Posted September 27, 2011 ^righ. Imagine a person having only ups in his life.. He wont appreciate his life. I would rather say that a poor person has led a good life. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
tengaku squared 291 Report post Posted September 27, 2011 Imagine a person having only ups in his life.. He wont appreciate his life. I would rather say that a poor person has led a good life. Man, I would like to meet a person like THAT. But...how in the world did a poor person lead a good life? In most cases, it was their fault. They lead BAD lives. (Of course, there were people that were swept into poverty against their choice) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Kaitou Kid Legendary Thief 197 Report post Posted September 27, 2011 @Kim: I can understand some of how you feel pretty well too D: But I'm not going into specifics. I can't tell you how to overcome them either because I haven't found a way to overcome them myself either~ Anyway, don't think too much about it~ walk one step at a time. *GIANT HUGS* Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Detective Rohit 38 Report post Posted September 27, 2011 Man, I would like to meet a person like THAT. But...how in the world did a poor person lead a good life? In most cases, it was their fault. They lead BAD lives. (Of course, there were people that were swept into poverty against their choice) I didnt say beggars did i? It would be just that a poor person has seen all the aspects of life. A "always up" person will not be able to handle downs as a poor person. Its like a football match. If the scores are 8-0 would you enjoy the match? A good match will be the one in which each team is even. So is life. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
tengaku squared 291 Report post Posted September 27, 2011 I didnt say beggars did i? It would be just that a poor person has seen all the aspects of life. A "always up" person will not be able to handle downs as a poor person. Its like a football match. If the scores are 8-0 would you enjoy the match? A good match will be the one in which each team is even. So is life. Beggars are only part of the poor population. Hmm. Seems to me like they'd only really experience the bad. While that is true, we tend to react to stress similarly over time. The analogy makes sense. The application doesn't. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Detective Rohit 38 Report post Posted September 27, 2011 Never mind. Moral of the story- Life has ups and downs and both of them are a mandatory elements Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
tengaku squared 291 Report post Posted September 27, 2011 Never mind. Moral of the story- Life has ups and downs and both of them are a mandatory elements If either of them are absent or unbalanced, you've got problems. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Detective Rohit 38 Report post Posted September 27, 2011 Yeah right Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
tengaku squared 291 Report post Posted September 27, 2011 Never mind. Moral of the story- Life has ups and downs and both of them are a mandatory elements Mmm...I'm gonna assume you made that post on accident. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Detective Rohit 38 Report post Posted September 27, 2011 Mmm...I'm gonna assume you made that post on accident. yeah it was. I got it edited Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Kim-Chan 41 Report post Posted September 27, 2011 @Kim: I can understand some of how you feel pretty well too D: But I'm not going into specifics. I can't tell you how to overcome them either because I haven't found a way to overcome them myself either~ Anyway, don't think too much about it~ walk one step at a time. *GIANT HUGS* Thanks KKLT-kun I'll be honest I only feel the depression side coming on if I'm not distracted or I start thinking to myself... Anyway @ Moho &Rohit Poor people can have a nice life, as Ii stated my family was once poor, we were happy people, it's just we didn't have much money. And thanks for the advice, I realize life has it's ups and downs and I just never thought that the downs would hurt this much.. Anyway I'm in a good mood today and I'll try to change my attitude ^___^ Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Lia. 45 Report post Posted September 27, 2011 No, it's just that long posts in general will freak me out. Chek's probably taken a few years off my life span. Skyechan as well. :V Aeyra does long posts too. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
-The Rising Angel- 48 Report post Posted September 27, 2011 I'm back...and I'm okay now Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Detective Rohit 38 Report post Posted September 27, 2011 Well its my time now...i am depressed because i havent seen my sister since april Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
-The Rising Angel- 48 Report post Posted September 27, 2011 Well its my time now...i am depressed because i havent seen my sister since april I haven't seen my brother since last summer either...I'm lucky that sometimes he enters here... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites